Love birds, married couples, 'open relationshippers', single beings.HAPPY VALENTINES!!
On the eve of yet another Valentines day, as well as in the absolute midst of an all still-single life, it has dawned on me - I absolutely bloody love being single! Call me crazy? I dare you.
It's now just under an hour till the clock strikes twelve and the big event gets officially underway. Right about now romantic flower arrangements are sitting in flower stores across the world just waiting to be delivered to that 'special someone', and god knows how many love heart balloons are bobbing away in living rooms of people's homes waiting to surprise someone after a night filled with steamy, passionate *cough cough*.
Many of you may be wondering why i've had such a sudden realisation about loving single life - to be honest there's not really any one reason - what I will say, however, is that being single in this day and age really does have its advantages...hashtag love it! No but seriously, for once in my life i'm actually starting to become very happy and comfortable with the fact that i'm single. There's no shame in it, it's not an illness, it's perfectly normal and well, yeah...I guess that's it! I mean, when you're single you can do what you want, when you want, right?. You don't have to justify yourself to anyone, you can develop your own timescale of life and plan YOUR day around YOU, not anyone else. Oh, and those disgusting, weird, annoying and generally bizarre habits that you secretly love about yourself but no one else ever will?...well in single life such things can take place at anytime, any day, anywhere...how fabulous!
In the weeks running up to valentines day it's safe to say we're just a tad bombard with love related items. High street stores and shopping centres are simply overtaken and turned upside down with love heart shaped cushions, teddy bears, cookies and chocolates and not to mention albums of '100 classic love songs' rocketing to number 1 on the iTunes downloaded list as well as those good old romantic comedies flying off the shelves for that romantic 'movie and dinner' couples have planned. Supermarkets are even getting involved in the love-frenzy - can you believe it? Love-heart shaped boxes are apparently the best way to hold fruit throughout the month of February. This was my discovery of the day, by the way. Fruit being sold in the shape of a heart. How adorable!
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There's so much pressure to not be single in this day and age and in my opinion, is something that's incredibly unfair and downright unjust. Relationships, commitment, reliability and making time for someone of importance is incredibly hard work. I feel people heavily underestimate the world of love and relationships - love is HARD work and anyone that says otherwise should definitely give me their number because I want your habits! But yeah, as I was saying, love ain't no walk in the park my friends!
What ever happened to loving yourself first? Enjoying the time you have of being yourself with no one else to account for? Where did those days go? Single life is heavily underrated - it's great! Rock it, own it, strut your stuff baby!
I’ve always wondered why love has to be so full of confusion and sheer abstractness. Why can’t love be simple? Why can’t it just be as pure as two people who realize that they can’t live as well, or as happily, apart as they can together? Does Valentine's day help reinforce this? Is that what it's ultimately trying to do? Keep the old 'love spark' alive? I don't know. Lauren Kate's book, Torment (great read, by the way) puts forward a quote that I feel perfectly relates to the world of love, relationships and emotions at the present time...
“They could steam up windows with their kisses, but as soon as they started using their mouths for other things - like talking - everything got so complicated.”
Is this true? Is this the modern interpretation of what we define to be complicated? Is this the modern interpretation of 'love'? Is the purpose of Valentine's day nowadays to rather perhaps try and depart from such a depressing thought?
It's true what they say isn't it? Love is hard and downright complicated. A tricky old business!
Valentine's Day, while certainly more legitimate than the American Greeting's faux holiday "Sweetest Day," is still a commercialised day that has become more about pressuring people into spending money on gifts and not being single than anything else. Maybe I shouldn't say that so bluntly but come on, it's the absolute freaking truth. Women call it the 'day of love' while for all those men out there, it's more a case of the 'day of extortion'.
If you ask me this is how it is, or rather how it should be - if you are in a happy, committed, trusting and honest relationship with someone you love and who loves you back, then EVERY day should be treated like Valentine's Day. I'm not kidding. Every day should have some form of love and romance, makes sense right? I mean at the end of the day you are choosing to spend every day of your life waking up with this person (for many with a ring on your finger as symbol of this 'love'), so why not make it as damn special as you possibly can? For the single community, it's no different, have no fear! - every date night for all you 'single and ready to mingle' cats out there can and also SHOULD be treated like Valentine's Day, that is to say if you both shut out the rest of the world (turn off your bloody phones and focus on each other!) Give it a go.
With now thirty three minutes to go at present until cupid arrives and shoots his arrows, I'm taking to bed.
For all you couples I wish you a splendid day filled with love, sex, romance and much passion. For all you singles - GO WILD! The young, wild and free mentality, right?
Oh, I almost forgot about those people in an 'open relationship'....yeah. Have a great day.
Awkward.
Much love my darlings, see you on the other side - where i'll still be single! (unless anyone's got any offers?)
Over and out, (until next time, of course).
L xo
